{"id":7781,"date":"2009-04-05T20:35:54","date_gmt":"2009-04-05T17:35:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/?p=7781"},"modified":"2009-04-05T20:35:54","modified_gmt":"2009-04-05T17:35:54","slug":"londradaki-basortulu-hanimefendiden-yola-cikarak-neler-dusundugumu-yazdim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/?p=7781","title":{"rendered":"Londra'daki ba\u015f\u00f6rt\u00fcl\u00fc Han\u0131mefendi'den yola \u00e7\u0131karak, neler d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fc yazd\u0131m"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\"\"\"Hakk\u0131<\/p>\n

Seksen ya\u015f\u0131 devirince, k\u0131l\u0131k k\u0131yafette olsun biraz ba\u015f\u0131bozukluk etmeye niyetlenmi\u015ftim. Olmuyor, beceremedim.
\nG\u00fclseren Han\u0131m yoktu art\u0131k ben yetmi\u015fli ya\u015flarla helalle\u015firken. K\u0131z\u0131m Zeynep’e dan\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Birlikte bir\u015feyler yapal\u0131m, dedi.
\nGiyecek neyim var, diye; Allah sizi inand\u0131rs\u0131n hayat\u0131mda ilk defa elbise dolaplar\u0131na bakt\u0131m.
\nDaha \u00e7ok gri, f\u00fcme rengi elbiselerim var. Birka\u00e7 tak\u0131m siyah ve kahverengi. Spor ceket ve pantolonlar. Yazl\u0131k ceket ve pantolonlar. Yazl\u0131k ve daha da \u00e7ok kravat ba\u011flanacak t\u00fcrden g\u00f6mlekler, ki Celalettin Benli’nin elinden \u00e7\u0131kmad\u0131r (Eline sa\u011fl\u0131k!) ve hepsi kravatl\u0131k.
\nKravats\u0131z giyince iki yakas\u0131 bir araya gelmez, da\u011f\u0131n\u0131k, savruk adamlara d\u00f6n\u00fcyorsunuz. \u0130ki ba\u015f\u0131bo\u015f yaka, ayn\u0131 hizada bile de\u011fil…
\nBu meseleyi \u00e7\u00f6zemedim.
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\nHafta sonuna do\u011fru bir g\u00fcnd\u00fc, hangisiyse; Tayyip Erdo\u011fan Bey ile e\u015fi Emine Han\u0131mefendinin G-20 Zirvesi i\u00e7in gittikleri Londra’da \u00e7ekilmi\u015f foto\u011fraflar\u0131 vard\u0131 gazetelerde.
\nH\u00fcrriyet’te mesela \u00abFirst Lady’ ler ailesi\u00bb diye bir grup foto\u011fraf\u0131. Michelle Obama hepsinden uzun. (Hali, tavr\u0131 ilk g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmden beri iyi geliyor bana. Besbelli, naz etme ihtiyac\u0131 duymayan, insan\u0131n g\u00fcvenebilece\u011fi, erke\u011fine omuz verecek, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir kad\u0131n.)
\nBizim Emine Han\u0131m onun yan\u0131nda k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcc\u00fck kalm\u0131\u015f. S\u0131rt\u0131nda a\u00e7\u0131k renk mantosu, daha da a\u00e7\u0131k renk pantolonu, ba\u015f\u0131nda s\u0131kmaba\u015f diyebilece\u011fim t\u00fcrban\u0131, 20 ki\u015filik bir grubun i\u00e7inde g\u00fcl\u00fcms\u00fcyor.
\nBir ba\u015fka han\u0131m daha var, ba\u015f\u0131 ba\u011fl\u0131. Siyah derili o, anla\u015f\u0131lan Afrikal\u0131 bir devlet adam\u0131n\u0131n e\u015fi. Kimonoya benzer bir k\u0131yafet de se\u00e7tim o foto\u011frafta. Ama ba\u015f\u0131 \u00f6rt\u00fcl\u00fc \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc bir kad\u0131n yoktu.
\nBildi\u011finiz gibi demeye c\u00fcret edece\u011fim, ben ba\u015f\u0131 \u00f6rt\u00fcl\u00fc kad\u0131nlar\u0131n mill\u00ee markam\u0131z\u0131n d\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fc olarak bize zarar verdi\u011fini vehmedenlerden de\u011filim. \u00ab\u00d6rt\u00fcnmeleri gerekir efendim!\u00bb kabilinden bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncem hi\u00e7 olmad\u0131. Japon kad\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131n kimonosuna, Meksikal\u0131lar\u0131n \u015fallar\u0131na, Afrikal\u0131 kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00e7\u0131lg\u0131n renklerden olu\u015fan k\u0131yafetlerine ve eli\u015fi tak\u0131lar\u0131na hi\u00e7 itiraz\u0131m yok. Fazla a\u00e7\u0131k sa\u00e7\u0131k k\u0131yafetleri, paskalya yumurtas\u0131 gibi a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 makiyaj\u0131, ben buraday\u0131m \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131na benzer \u015fapkalar\u0131 ve tak\u0131lar\u0131 sevmiyorum. Hepsi bu!
\n*
\nBenim baba evimden, anam\u0131n ailesinden izlenimlerim, hat\u0131rlad\u0131klar\u0131m var. D\u00fc\u011fmeyi alaturkadan alafrangaya \u00e7evirerek unutulmuyor ki b\u00fct\u00fcn bir ge\u00e7mi\u015f.
\nBabaannem, anneannem ba\u015f\u0131 \u00f6rt\u00fcl\u00fc kad\u0131nlard\u0131. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckt\u00fcm ama hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum, ailenin han\u0131mlar\u0131yla hamama giderdik. Hepsi de\u011fil, ama sa\u00e7lar\u0131ndan gayri yerlerini de a\u00e7\u0131kta b\u0131rakan kad\u0131nlar olurdu hamamda. (Sonradan \u00abYahu o herkesin merak etti\u011fi mahrem mahallere ben bakmam\u0131\u015f\u0131m demek ki, hat\u0131r\u0131mda iz eser yok, hi\u00e7bir \u015fey hat\u0131rlam\u0131yorum\u00bb dedi\u011fimde bana inanmayan arkada\u015flar\u0131m olurdu.
\nAile aras\u0131nda ve hele k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcklerin yan\u0131nda ileri geri, a\u00e7\u0131k sa\u00e7\u0131k laflar edilmeyen evlerde, \u00e7ocuklar baz\u0131 meselelere uyanmakta gecikir. Bizim i\u00e7inde b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz \u00e7evre, mutaass\u0131p (ba\u011fnaz) de\u011fil de m\u00fceddep (edepli) insanlardan olu\u015fuyormu\u015f, demek ki… Ben ve ya\u015f\u0131tlar\u0131m bu fark\u0131 \u00e7ok sonralar\u0131 alg\u0131lad\u0131k.
\nHep derim ya, Cumhuriyet’ten alt\u0131 ya\u015f k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm, diye. Babam ve anam, Cumhuriyet kuruldu\u011funda 22 ve 18 ya\u015flar\u0131nda. Ben d\u00fcnyaya geldi\u011fimde babam\u0131n ya\u015f\u0131 28, anam\u0131n 24. M\u00fcft\u00fc k\u0131z\u0131 Samiye Han\u0131m k\u0131z muallim mektebine g\u00f6nderilmi\u015f. Sa\u00e7\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131kt\u0131 ben onu hat\u0131rlad\u0131\u011f\u0131mda; babaannemden, anneannemden ve dul halamdan farkl\u0131 olarak. Biz ilkokuldayken, ne de\u011fi\u015ftiyse art\u0131k, annem ile yengemin, yani evin gelinlerinin (yanl\u0131\u015f anlamay\u0131n kocalar\u0131 de\u011fil) kay\u0131nvalideleri ve g\u00f6r\u00fcmceleri taraf\u0131ndan ba\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6rtmeleri istenir oldu. Bunu b\u00fcg\u00fcn, evdeki alb\u00fcmlerde de g\u00f6rebiliyoruz. Ama o iki gen\u00e7 kad\u0131n, hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum, al\u0131nlar\u0131nda ba\u015f\u00f6rt\u00fclerinden ta\u015fan k\u00e2k\u00fcllerini korumakta sonuna kadar direndiler.
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\nBir\u00e7ok \u015fehirde okullara gittim ben. Ya\u015f\u0131tlar\u0131m aras\u0131nda ba\u015f\u00f6rt\u00fcl\u00fc k\u0131z \u00f6\u011frenci yoktu; benim k\u0131z\u0131m b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde de olmad\u0131.
\n\u00dcniversite y\u0131llar\u0131na gelince k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n etekleri k\u0131sal\u0131rken, o\u011flumun sa\u00e7lar\u0131 uzamaya ba\u015flad\u0131. Evimizde bu sebeple bir huzursuzluk olmad\u0131. Ama sakall\u0131 o\u011flunu bu sebeple evinden kovan arkada\u015f\u0131m babalar ile \u00f6\u011frencisini imtihan salonuna almayan profes\u00f6r arkada\u015flar\u0131m oldu. Onlarla y\u0131llar y\u0131l\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00e7eki\u015ftik.
\nBu meselelerin konu\u015fuldu\u011fu g\u00fcnlerde babam anlatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Bir bayram sabah\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fckbabam\u0131n elini \u00f6pmeye davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, rahmetli Hakk\u0131 Bey Dedem elini geri \u00e7ekerken, ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 da \u00f6teye \u00e7evirmi\u015f. Dedemin elini \u00e7ekmesine, arife g\u00fcn\u00fc b\u0131y\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 kesmesinin sebep oldu\u011funu babam daha sonra babaannemden \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015f.
\nDinlerken g\u00fclm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fck.
\nBabam\u0131n benzer bir taassubu (ba\u011fnazl\u0131\u011f\u0131) yoktu. Benim de sa\u00e7 uzatmak, b\u0131y\u0131k b\u0131rakmak gibi heveslerim olmad\u0131 do\u011frusu.
\nHayat\u0131ma giren son kad\u0131n olan Elif torunumla, t\u0131rnak ojesinin rengini mesela tart\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z oluyor. Ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn ellerini g\u00f6sterdi, \u00abBak dede, sen b\u00f6ylesini be\u011fenirsin\u00bb diye. Ten rengine yak\u0131n bir pembeydi. Hakl\u0131ym\u0131\u015f\u0131m, b\u00f6yle \u00e7ok daha g\u00fczel… Hafiften tebess\u00fcm etmekle yetindim. \u0130stedi\u011fini yapt\u0131rm\u0131\u015f mutaass\u0131p bir dede havas\u0131na girmeyi hi\u00e7 istemem.
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\nBat\u0131l\u0131 kad\u0131n (rahibeler d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda) ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6rtm\u00fcyor. Bak\u0131ml\u0131 sa\u00e7\u0131 severim ve ba\u015f \u00f6rtmenin, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n g\u00fczelli\u011fine g\u00fczellik katt\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesinde de de\u011filim. Hayat\u0131mda kimseden, so\u011fuk veya s\u0131caktan zarar gelmesi ihtimali d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6rtmesini istemedim.
\n\u00d6rt! demem kimseye; Ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7! da demedi\u011fim gibi… Emine Han\u0131mefendi’nin ba\u015f \u00f6rt\u00fcs\u00fcne gelince. Birileri yad\u0131rgayacak, imaj\u0131m\u0131z bozulacak gibi gerek\u00e7elerle kimseyi rahats\u0131z etme hakk\u0131m\u0131z yok, olamaz! Kad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n yar\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00e7o\u011funun ba\u015f\u0131 \u00f6rt\u00fcl\u00fcyken, i\u00e7lerinden birinden elin memleketine gidiyor diye ve s\u0131rf fa\u00e7am\u0131z bozulacak endi\u015fesiyle bunu istemenin nas\u0131l bir anlam\u0131 olur ki!
\n\u00d6rt\u00fcnmeyi inat ve ay\u0131plama konusu olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131n, ama bunu do\u011fru oldu\u011funa inanarak yap\u0131n, o zaman asl\u0131nda b\u00f6yle bir meselemiz olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da g\u00f6rece\u011fiz. Hepimiz.\n<\/p>\n

Kaynak : Hakk\u0131 Devrim – Radikal<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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Seksen ya\u015f\u0131 devirince, k\u0131l\u0131k k\u0131yafette olsun biraz ba\u015f\u0131bozukluk etmeye niyetlenmi\u015ftim. Olmuyor, beceremedim. G\u00fclseren Han\u0131m yoktu art\u0131k ben yetmi\u015fli ya\u015flarla helalle\u015firken. K\u0131z\u0131m Zeynep’e dan\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Birlikte bir\u015feyler yapal\u0131m, dedi. Giyecek neyim var, diye; Allah sizi inand\u0131rs\u0131n hayat\u0131mda ilk defa elbise dolaplar\u0131na bakt\u0131m. Daha \u00e7ok gri, f\u00fcme rengi elbiselerim var. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[105],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7781","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-gundem","odd"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7781","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7781"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7781\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7781"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7781"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7781"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}