{"id":1730,"date":"2008-10-09T09:42:43","date_gmt":"2008-10-09T06:42:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/?p=1730"},"modified":"2008-10-09T09:42:43","modified_gmt":"2008-10-09T06:42:43","slug":"hayatimin-en-guzel-haftasini-gecirdim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/?p=1730","title":{"rendered":"Hayat\u0131m\u0131n en g\u00fczel haftas\u0131n\u0131 ge\u00e7irdim"},"content":{"rendered":"

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– Hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, Kazda\u011flar\u0131’nda kamp yapma hayali kuran Mehpare Edin’in arkas\u0131ndan Esat Edin, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla birlikte 1 Ekim’de yola \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131. 2 Ekim 2008 g\u00fcn\u00fc, Mehpare ve Esat Edin’in 15. evlilik y\u0131ld\u00f6n\u00fcmleriydi.<\/p>\n

– Esat Edin, e\u015fine son do\u011fum g\u00fcn\u00fcnde alt\u0131n bir y\u00fcz\u00fck hediye eder. \u00dczerinde yumurtadan \u00e7\u0131kmakta olan bir ku\u015f vard\u0131r… Kart\u0131n \u00fczerinde ‘Bu da ge\u00e7er ku\u015fum,’ yazar.<\/p>\n

– \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n okulu, arkada\u015flar\u0131yla ili\u015fkileri hakk\u0131nda \u00e7ok \u015fey \u00f6\u011frenmek isteyen baba, her per\u015fembe bir aile toplant\u0131s\u0131 yapar. TV seyretme, bilgisayar oynama saatleri bu toplant\u0131larda kararla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r. <\/p>\n

– Mehpare Edin’in kayb\u0131ndan sonra t\u00fcm mahalle \u00e7ocuklara kol kanat gerer. En yak\u0131n kom\u015fular\u0131 Mehmet Ali Bey ve \u015ferife Han\u0131m’\u0131n yeri ayr\u0131d\u0131r.
\nHaftada bir g\u00fcn \u00e7ocuklar, onlar\u0131n evinde yemek yer. Murat Edin, bu rit\u00fceli bu hafta da bozmad\u0131.<\/p>\n

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– Esat Edin i\u00e7in yak\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131n son s\u00f6z\u00fc \u015fu: “Hayalini kurdu, kendini paralad\u0131, d\u00fczeltece\u011fim derken hata da yapt\u0131, g\u00fcnlerini, gecelerini verdi ama ba\u015fard\u0131.Bir \u00e7\u00f6p y\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131ndan bir r\u00fcya k\u00f6y yaratt\u0131. K\u00f6y\u00fcn sakinleri taraf\u0131ndan son yolculu\u011funa u\u011furlan\u0131rken alk\u0131\u015fland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 duyduysa, ruhu \u015fad olmu\u015ftur.”<\/p>\n

Hi\u00e7 kolay de\u011fil. Aradan bir hafta ge\u00e7ti. Trajik bir \u015fekilde hayat\u0131n\u0131 kaybeden baba ve \u00fc\u00e7 \u00e7ocu\u011fu i\u00e7in onlar\u0131 tan\u0131yan tan\u0131mayan herkes g\u00f6zya\u015f\u0131 d\u00f6kt\u00fc… B\u00fcy\u00fck bir kalabal\u0131k, papatya ve beyaz g\u00fcllerle u\u011furlad\u0131 onlar\u0131, annelerinin yan\u0131na. Ailenin tek tesellisi de buydu belki. Bir yak\u0131nlar\u0131 benimle konu\u015furken, \u015fu resmi anlat\u0131yordu: “Bir baba d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn, sabah\u0131n k\u00f6r\u00fcnde d\u00f6rt \u00e7ocu\u011fuyla birlikte trambolinde z\u0131pl\u0131yor!” Esat-Mehpare, Serra, Cem ve Aliye art\u0131k yok. 14 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki Murat \u00e7ekirdek ailesini kaybetti ama anneannesi Rosie (\u00e7ocuklar ona Tom diyor), halalar\u0131 Leyla ve Belk\u0131s, amcas\u0131 R\u0131fat, day\u0131s\u0131 Mehmet, yengesi \u00d6zlem, Edhem abisi, Fadi, kom\u015fusu Mehmet Ali-\u015eerife \u00e7ifti, Mehpare’nin refakat\u00e7i ku\u015flar\u0131 ve ona anne-babas\u0131n\u0131n b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 y\u00fczlerce seveniyle birlikte yaln\u0131z de\u011fil o k\u00f6yde… ‘Her \u015eeye Ra\u011fmen \u0130kimiz’ r\u00f6portaj\u0131 i\u00e7in Esat Edin’i, kaybetti\u011fi e\u015fi Mehpare Han\u0131m’\u0131 anlatmas\u0131 i\u00e7in aram\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. “Bir ay sonra konu\u015fal\u0131m,” dedi. Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz hafta cumartesi yine arad\u0131m. Telefonu \u00e7al\u0131yor ama cevap vermiyordu. Telefonunu yan\u0131na, \u00e7ad\u0131ra almam\u0131\u015f me\u011fer… ‘T\u00fcrk filmlerinde bile bu kadar trajedi \u00fcst \u00fcste gelmez,’ dedirten t\u00fcrden bir hik\u00e2ye… Pek \u00e7ok insan Mehpare ve Esat Edin’in mutlulu\u011funa g\u0131ptayla bakar, onlar\u0131 \u00f6rnek aile g\u00f6sterirdi. Mehpare Edin iki yaz \u00f6nce, u\u00e7akta, g\u00fczeller g\u00fczeli \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla \u00f6n\u00fcmdeki koltukta oturuyordu. Al\u0131ml\u0131, dikkat \u00e7ekiciydi. Asil, \u00f6zel bir duru\u015fu vard\u0131. Bir prenses gibi… \u0130ran as\u0131ll\u0131 bir prensesin soyundan geldi\u011fini bu hafta \u00f6\u011frendim. “Mutlulu\u011fun resmini \u00e7izmeniz istense ancak bu aile olurdu,” diyen yak\u0131n\u0131ndan… Sadece o ki\u015fiyle de\u011fil, arkalar\u0131ndan g\u00f6zya\u015f\u0131 d\u00f6ken onlarca yak\u0131n\u0131yla konu\u015ftum. Ac\u0131l\u0131 zamanlar\u0131nda bana ayr\u0131cal\u0131k tan\u0131d\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in te\u015fekk\u00fcr ederim. Esat ve Mehpare Edin’in yak\u0131n bir dostunun dedi\u011fi gibi, her k\u00f6\u015fesinde ba\u015fka bir efsane ya\u015fatan g\u00f6rkemli ve gizemli \u0130da, onlar\u0131 koynuna ald\u0131… Ya\u015fam kimi zaman uzun, kimi zaman k\u0131sa. Aslolan mutlu olmak ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na mutlulu\u011fu \u00f6\u011fretmek. Murat’a b\u00fct\u00fcn ac\u0131lar\u0131na ra\u011fmen kalan en \u00f6nemli miras, mutlulu\u011fun ne oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015f olmas\u0131…<\/p>\n

Y\u0131l 1993… G\u00fczel Mehpare’yi (Taki) ilk g\u00f6ren Esat Edin’in a\u011fabeyi R\u0131fat Edin’dir. \u0130ki yak\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131 bek\u00e2r, k\u0131zlardan konu\u015furken, R\u0131fat; \u00e7ok g\u00fczel ve zarif biriyle tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, karde\u015fi Esat’a anlat\u0131r. Esat Edin gen\u00e7 kad\u0131n\u0131 merak eder. Onu tan\u0131mak ister. Zaten g\u00f6r\u00fcr g\u00f6rmez birbirlerine \u00e2\u015f\u0131k olurlar. Mehpare, kendisinden dokuz ya\u015f b\u00fcy\u00fck olan Esat Edin’in ince zek\u00e2s\u0131ndan, esprilerinden ve y\u00fcz\u00fcnden hi\u00e7 kaybolmayan tebess\u00fcm\u00fcnden etkilenmi\u015ftir. Zamanla birbirlerini tamamlad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 fark ederler. Esat Edin ne kadar da\u011f\u0131n\u0131ksa, Mehpare Taki o kadar d\u00fczenlidir. Esat ne kadar komikse, Mehpare o kadar ciddidir. Ama birlikteyken \u00e7ok e\u011flenirler. 2 Ekim 1993 y\u0131l\u0131nda evlenirler. Esat Edin, evliliklerinin ilk g\u00fcn\u00fcnden itibaren d\u00f6rt \u00e7ocuklu b\u00fcy\u00fck bir aile olacaklar\u0131n\u0131 arkada\u015flar\u0131na anlat\u0131r. Aynen kendi karde\u015fleri gibi, iki k\u0131z, iki erkek \u00e7ocuk istemektedir. Hatta hayali, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcrce do\u011faya b\u0131rakmakt\u0131r. B\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fehrin kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan uzak, arkada\u015flar\u0131yla ak\u015fam ge\u00e7 saatlere kadar oynayacaklar\u0131, g\u00fcvenlik kayg\u0131s\u0131 olmadan ko\u015fturacaklar\u0131, hakiki kom\u015fuluk ili\u015fkilerinin kurulaca\u011f\u0131, y\u00fczlerce aileden olu\u015fan bir k\u00f6y hayalidir bu. \u00c7al\u0131\u015fmalara \u00e7oktan ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. “Her \u015feyi iyi taraf\u0131ndan g\u00f6rebilen bir adamd\u0131. Zor zaman\u0131nda bile…” diyor bir dostu. S\u0131cak, samimi, en alttan en \u00fcste kadar \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131na de\u011fer veren, iki sene \u00f6ncesine kadar \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131na kendi evinin bah\u00e7esinde kuru fasulye-pilav haz\u0131rlayan, al\u00e7akg\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc bir patron. Felsefesi olmayan bir \u015feyin ya\u015fama olana\u011f\u0131n\u0131n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen, sanat\u00e7\u0131 ruhlu bir insan. \u0130\u015f toplant\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 an \u00e7ocuklarla olacaksa, kendini \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na veren bir baba. Enerjik, komik, p\u0131r\u0131lt\u0131l\u0131, insan ruhuna dokunan, k\u0131vrak zek\u00e2s\u0131yla karde\u015flerini bile \u015fa\u015f\u0131rtan, iyi bir arkada\u015f. Hayalci. Sinemaya gitmektense, do\u011fay\u0131 ke\u015ffe \u00e7\u0131kmay\u0131 tercih eden merakl\u0131 bir insan. G\u00fczel anlar\u0131 sevdiklerine anlatarak, mutlulu\u011fu kal\u0131c\u0131 k\u0131lmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan biri. Belki de bu y\u00fczden, ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz cuma g\u00fcn\u00fc ablas\u0131yla telefonda uzun uzun konu\u015fup, Leyla Han\u0131m’a, “Hayat\u0131m\u0131n en g\u00fczel haftas\u0131n\u0131 ge\u00e7irdim,” demi\u015f. Belki de bu y\u00fczden sermaye merkezli ya\u015famay\u0131, ‘K\u00e2r, daha \u00e7ok k\u00e2r,’ demeyi akl\u0131na dahi getirmemi\u015f.<\/p>\n

Kazda\u011flar\u0131’n\u0131 Londra’dan \u00e7ok sevmi\u015fler
\n\u00c7ocuklar ve babalar\u0131 Kazda\u011flar\u0131’na gitmeyi kafalar\u0131na, Londra’ya gitmeden \u00f6nce koymu\u015flar. Londra’dan geldiklerinin ertesi sabah\u0131 malzemelerini al\u0131p erkenden yola \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015flar. Evdeki yard\u0131mc\u0131lar\u0131 Sefer Bey, “Her g\u00fcn bana telefon edip \u00e7ad\u0131r haz\u0131r m\u0131?” diye soruyordu, diyor. Kazda\u011flar\u0131’na geldiklerinde babalar\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na “Londra m\u0131 daha g\u00fczeldi, buras\u0131 m\u0131?” diye sormu\u015f. O s\u0131rada arkalar\u0131nda beliren g\u00f6kku\u015fa\u011f\u0131na d\u00f6nen Aliye, “Londra da g\u00fczeldi ama buras\u0131 daha g\u00fczel,” demi\u015f.<\/p>\n

Mehpare edin
\n– Ortak\u00f6y’de, a\u015f\u0131 boyal\u0131 evde otururken e\u015fine “Ben habire do\u011furuyorum, onlara bir k\u00f6y gerekli,” diye espri yapan Mehpare Edin en k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131, kocas\u0131n\u0131n yoktan var etti\u011fi k\u00f6ylerinde do\u011furur.<\/p>\n

– Mehpare Edin, Kemer’e ta\u015f\u0131nd\u0131klar\u0131nda ise \u015fakayla kar\u0131\u015f\u0131k e\u015fine \u015funu s\u00f6yler: “Reklamlar\u0131n\u0131z do\u011fruymu\u015f. Rahat ettim, kom\u015fular\u0131m da \u015fahane…”<\/p>\n

– Hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u00fcresince, a\u011fr\u0131dan yak\u0131nmaz, hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 konu\u015fmaz. Etraf\u0131nda olu\u015fan sevgi haresinden \u015fa\u015fk\u0131n ama mutludur. Hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u00fcresince Mehpare Edin’in muazzam bir arkada\u015f deste\u011fi olmas\u0131na ra\u011fmen, her an yan\u0131nda olmas\u0131n\u0131 arzu etti\u011fi insan, Esat Edin’dir. Yak\u0131nlar\u0131 “Emniyeti ve huzuru Mehpare’ye Esat veriyordu,” diyorlar.<\/p>\n

– Hastane odas\u0131nda 80’li y\u0131llar\u0131n m\u00fcziklerini dinlerler e\u015fiyle birlikte…<\/p>\n

Birbirlerine zaaflar\u0131 \u00e7oktu
\nMehpare Edin, elinden her i\u015f gelen, programc\u0131 bir anne. Haf\u0131zas\u0131 kuvvetli, detayc\u0131, i\u015finde \u00e7ok zaman ge\u00e7irdi\u011fi i\u00e7in zaman zaman kocas\u0131na serzeni\u015fte bulunan, e\u015fine tutkuyla ba\u011fl\u0131 bir kad\u0131n. Esat Edin’in her zaman en \u00e7ok g\u00fcvendi\u011fi hayat arkada\u015f\u0131. “Birbirlerine \u00e7ok zaaflar\u0131 vard\u0131,” diyor, yak\u0131n bir arkada\u015flar\u0131.<\/p>\n

Sabah-G\u00fcnayd\u0131n<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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– Hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, Kazda\u011flar\u0131’nda kamp yapma hayali kuran Mehpare Edin’in arkas\u0131ndan Esat Edin, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla birlikte 1 Ekim’de yola \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131. 2 Ekim 2008 g\u00fcn\u00fc, Mehpare ve Esat Edin’in 15. evlilik y\u0131ld\u00f6n\u00fcmleriydi.<\/p>\n

– Esat Edin, e\u015fine son do\u011fum g\u00fcn\u00fcnde alt\u0131n bir y\u00fcz\u00fck hediye eder. \u00dczerinde yumurtadan \u00e7\u0131kmakta olan bir ku\u015f vard\u0131r… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[105],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1730","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-gundem","odd"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1730","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1730"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1730\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1730"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1730"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.korhanyilmaz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1730"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}